I didn’t understand what healthy boundaries in relationships actually looked like until a woman called me out in a Trader Joe’s. It sounds like the least consequential story imaginable. But it taught me something I hadn’t been able to learn any other way. I was with the first woman I dated after I stopped drinking. … Read more
I want to be straight with you before we get into this. I’m not writing this from a place of having my habits dialed in. I don’t have a perfect morning routine. I still make choices I’m not proud of. I still have days where I know exactly what I should be doing and choose … Read more
For a long time, I thought I had a pretty good mindset. I was smart. People told me so. I was athletic, well-liked, the kind of guy who could walk into a room and make it work. Things came naturally — school, sports, people — and because they did, I developed a quiet belief that … Read more
Let’s start with what this isn’t. This isn’t about affirmations in the mirror. It’s not about manifesting your dream life or choosing happiness or any variation of the idea that if you just think the right thoughts hard enough, reality will rearrange itself to match. That version of positive thinking is, at best, a temporary … Read more
There’s a version of personal growth that looks like self-improvement. And there’s a version that looks like self-destruction. For a long time I confused the two. I became a middle school teacher because I genuinely believed I could help kids at the exact age I started going sideways. I thought if I could reach them … Read more
There was a period in my life where I was waiting to feel ready. Ready to get my life together. Ready to stop drinking. Ready to become the person I always told myself I was capable of being. I was waiting for some internal alarm to go off — some moment of clarity where everything … Read more