For a long time, I thought I had a pretty good mindset. I was smart. People told me so. I was athletic, well-liked, the kind of guy who could walk into a room and make it work. Things came naturally — school, sports, people — and because they did, I developed a quiet belief that … Read more
Let’s start with what this isn’t. This isn’t about affirmations in the mirror. It’s not about manifesting your dream life or choosing happiness or any variation of the idea that if you just think the right thoughts hard enough, reality will rearrange itself to match. That version of positive thinking is, at best, a temporary … Read more
Most people don’t find stoicism when life is going well. They find it when something breaks. When the thing they were counting on disappears. When the version of the future they’d built in their head turns out not to be real. That’s how it found me. I had stopped drinking and somewhere in the back … Read more